CALL THEM IF THEY DON'T CALL YOU

If they don't call you, call them. If you can't call or text them, then be still, mind your business, and live your best life. If they haven't called you in a while, it could mean:

They're busy

They're going through a lot and need their space.

They no send you.

I have a friend (a male friend) who makes it a point of duty to call me regularly. He is not chyking me o (maybe he'll chyke me in future 🤣🤣) but he calls at least twice or three times in a month. The call margin is huge right? But the thing is, I don't even call. I don't remember ever dialing his number to just know how he's doing or whatever. The last time I remember dialing his number was on January 1 because it was a new year. I wasn't even going to call twice if he doesn't pick once - that's how terrible my character can be.

He doesn't give up despite the fact that I don't even call. He is consistent and whenever he calls, he refrains from the regular Nigerian 'you don forget me na' cliche because he understands that nobody owes you a duty to remember you. BTW, do you hold their oxygen tanks? Why should they always have you at heart? Or maybe you owe them? Okay fine, go ahead and owe a lot of people, I'm sure they'll always remember you - everyday, all the time.

And there's a Boma Bliss who texts occasionally to appreciate our friendship and remind me and others that she cares. The crazy part is, I don't reply her text or call to acknowledge receipt but I promise to change😞. The world is crazy, I tell you. This same girl called me some days ago to tell me that my name was mentioned in the Nollywood movie she was watching. 😒😒 (this one wastes airtime for a living.)

On another note, if you belong to the 'remembered' few and you don't open up to someone who cares, then you shouldn't blame them when they give up on you because they are humans too and cannot spend the rest of their lives coercing you to speak up on your challenges. If you've ever wondered why someone who cared suddenly loses interest, then your constant 'I'm fine' even when you're not fine may just be the problem. They're not super humans, they have their frailty too.

If they always call you, appreciate their time and never take it for granted. And if you manage to call, get straight to it and cut us the slack of the 'you've forgotten me' narrative. I tell you what? If you're the 'you've forgotten me na' type, then you should truly be forgotten. You know why? You should know why.

Bottom line: It's the season of lockdown and no one has forgotten anybody. Or, maybe yes, they may have forgotten you because they are engaged with one thing or another. People are trying to get their acts together this period so please, deal with it! More people are depressed in this period because for most persons, there's no inflow of cash. People are sorting themselves out and adapting to new challenges. Let's press the pause button on this self imposed entitlement and be useful in our relationships. If you have waited for long for that friend/lover to call and they've not called, please call or text them and spread love! Yes, give out that which you expect from people. Go a little further and ask for their account number even. Surprise God and send them money if you can. They'll never forget you. Even if they forget you, you'll never forget yourself. 😁😁

Ighotago?

He that has ears... 

Udo diri gi👌